The Case For Elegant Behavior

A lot of the time, people conflate elegance with looking expensive, even though they are not the same thing at all. You probably have noticed this yourself, perhaps when you see a person who looks like they might be someone of class and substance, but then maybe they open their mouth, and their bad manners give them away as a kind of pretender.

And isn’t it always so shocking when you learn that the person that perhaps intrigued you with their outer looks turned out to be the opposite of the admirable qualities that you’d already started to assign to them in your mind? This is why it’s so important that you pay attention not only to how you look but also to how you behave. It’s impossible to truly be seen as a high-value person when your looks and your behavior don’t match up.

I made this video that explores things that other people WILL notice that reveal those who are truly elegant in not only their appearance but also the way they conduct themselves. There are so many things that you may think are insignificant but are, in actual fact, red flags in social situations. Often we think of “red flags” as when people make a big, obvious mistake that results in instant scandal or embarrassment. But really, it doesn’t have to be that dramatic. Often the giveaways are not big things. I would go so far as to say that most of them are not what you might consider “big.” But they are impactful.

Let’s talk about why certain actions that we take when we are in the company of others are so important. Certainly, manners and etiquette didn’t just happen for no reason at all. No. They became social norms for reasons that have to do with what makes for pleasant and enjoyable company in a social environment and shows respect and appreciation for other people.

Now you may be thinking that there has been a little bit of a trend in recent years for people to want to “keep it real” and do whatever they want with no thought of others. While being yourself is important not to seem stiff or artificial, being completely inconsiderate to others and ignoring how you may appear to them is never a good idea. Firstly, because you are not evolving to be the best that you can be, you are focusing on behavior that is off-putting by ignoring the common courtesies, and secondly because you are shutting yourself off from opportunities that can arise from being the kind of person that is thought of as elegant and well-mannered. And you know that I am always wanting you to make the most of your opportunities to improve your lives!

So ladies, knowing how to behave elegantly is an important social skill! And if you would like to create a look that is very uniquely your own without making the same mistakes that others encounter when trying to figure out their own perfect and elegant style on their budget, please go to to get on the waitlist for my next course opening.

And remember…a high-value look with high-value behavior is the sign of a classy person!

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Anna Bey is an educator in the elegant feminine empowerment space and the founder of an online finishing school for women. She can confidently call herself a pioneer in this genre because she was the first to be sharing content in this niche since 2012.

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Anna Bey is an expert on Modern Elegance™, upscale transformations, and leveling up, with over 150 million channel views. Since 2012, she has taught women how to develop a more refined personal presence and lifestyle inside the Anna Bey Academy, where she hosts her various classes and courses. Her publication features include The Times UK, Newsweek, New York Post, Cosmopolitan, and many more.


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