Did I change because I got divorced?

Over the years, my personal goals and aspirations have undergone significant transformations. What once seemed paramount to my sense of self and success has shifted, revealing a deeper understanding of what it means to truly “level up” in life. Reflecting on my journey, I hope to offer insights and perhaps resonate with those who may be navigating similar paths.

The Early Days: Chasing High Society

When I started my YouTube channel in 2018, my focus was clear: to explore and achieve a lifestyle of affluence and elegance. I dedicated myself to presenting the best version of myself, both inside and out. High society, luxury fashion, and a life of sophistication were at the forefront of my ambitions. I do not regret these goals—they were right for me at the time and played a crucial role in shaping who I am today.

However, as I continued to grow and evolve, I began to question the deeper motivations behind these aspirations. Was this pursuit of luxury truly fulfilling me, or was it merely a response to societal expectations and pressures?

A Shift in Perspective

In recent years, I have experienced a profound shift in my focus. Rather than chasing external markers of success, I have turned inward, seeking fulfillment through self-discovery and personal development. This shift was not precipitated by a major life event but rather a gradual realization that my previous goals no longer aligned with my current values and desires.

One significant change has been my approach to consumption. I have become acutely aware of the overconsumption rat race prevalent in Western society. By reflecting on my shopping habits and the reasons behind my purchases, I have significantly downsized my material possessions. My wardrobe is now curated with only the essentials—items that I genuinely need and use.

Reflecting on Past Content

As someone who has been on this platform for several years, I occasionally look back at my older videos and cringe at some of my past opinions and how I expressed them. While my core beliefs have remained relatively consistent, the way I articulate them has evolved. I have always been direct and blunt, a communication style that sometimes lacked the necessary context or disclaimers. This is something I am mindful of now as I strive to convey my thoughts more clearly and considerately.

Redefining Success and Luxury

Despite my shift away from the high society lifestyle, I still value elegance and sophistication. However, I no longer see these qualities as synonymous with luxury in the traditional sense. To me, luxury now encompasses simplicity, nature, and the joy found in everyday moments. This balanced approach to life has brought me a deeper sense of satisfaction and peace.

Addressing Misconceptions

There have been questions about my apparent change in direction and whether it signifies a negative view of luxury goals. I want to clarify that my current stance does not negate the value of these aspirations for others. It is a personal decision, and what works for me may not work for everyone. If a luxurious lifestyle aligns with your goals and brings you joy, then by all means, pursue it with passion.

Continuing the Journey

My mission remains to help women improve their lives, both internally and externally. While my content has diversified, encompassing more aspects of personal growth and mindset transformation, the core message of leveling up remains the same. I encourage you to define what luxury and success mean for you and to pursue those goals authentically and passionately.

In conclusion, my journey has taught me the importance of evolving perspectives and remaining true to oneself. Whether you aspire to high society or find joy in simplicity, the key is to live a life that feels authentic and fulfilling to you. Thank you for joining me on this journey, and I look forward to continuing to share my experiences and insights with you.

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Anna Bey is an educator in the elegant feminine empowerment space and the founder of an online finishing school for women. She can confidently call herself a pioneer in this genre because she was the first to be sharing content in this niche since 2012.

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Anna Bey is an expert on Modern Elegance™, upscale transformations, and leveling up, with over 150 million channel views. Since 2012, she has taught women how to develop a more refined personal presence and lifestyle inside the Anna Bey Academy, where she hosts her various classes and courses. Her publication features include The Times UK, Newsweek, New York Post, Cosmopolitan, and many more.


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