7 Dress Code Mistakes Elegant People NEVER Make

Are you really going to wear THAT?”

Ladies, no one wants to hear these words when you’re considering the outfit that you will be wearing to an event or occasion that requires a certain dress code…or perhaps should require a certain dress code. What do I mean by this? Well, there are some times in life that you will be attending something where you might need to put some extra thought into what you will be wearing.

However, it has become very common for people to think that any way that they show up should be good enough. But this is not always the case. You may not be expecting this, but sometimes what we wear can be considered very disrespectful to others: the host, perhaps the person of honor, the seriousness of the occasion, or even the other attendees.

Now, this can be a little but of a sensitive topic to some ladies, who think may be thinking, “Oh, Anna, lots of people don’t dress up for XYZ occasion and besides, I don’t want to be uncomfortable!” Yet perhaps other people are uncomfortable with what you wore when you walked in the door! This is the self-awareness that I spoke about before in this blog post.

This does not mean that what you may be thinking of wearing is unattractive or doesn’t look good on you. There is a big difference between something looking flattering on you, and something being appropriate for an occasion. Think of it this way: you have have found the perfect swimsuit for your vacation that is extremely flattering on you and makes you feel confident and happy. But you probably shouldn’t wear it to a job interview! That is because it’s most likely not the time or the place for that particular garment to really be the one to wear. It is the same for social occasions.

Occasion clothing and what you should be selecting to wear 

I have made a video about occasion clothing and what you should be selecting to wear (and, yes, you can still be comfortable!) 

In it I talk more about the ideal outfits that will perfectly suit many common occasions…the kind where observing a certain dress code is not only appropriate, it is just good manners.

Perhaps you are wondering how you can become familiar with these dress codes if you don’t have many occasions to practice. I always suggest that you practice with your friends that also have similar goals so that you can help each other. And if you don’t know any ladies like that, then you should join my Private Members’ Club, The A-List, as all the ladies there are on their own level up journey and are therefore likeminded to you! 

(I have made it easy for you to find these kinds of friends).


As you think about our level-up goals in life, how you come across to people is very much a part of them. How you make people feel helps them form an opinion of what they think of you, and if we are being honest with ourselves, people are more inclined to want to continue to get to know you if your impression is a positive one from the start!

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Anna Bey is an educator in the elegant feminine empowerment space and the founder of an online finishing school for women. She can confidently call herself a pioneer in this genre because she was the first to be sharing content in this niche since 2012.

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Anna Bey is an expert on Modern Elegance™, upscale transformations, and leveling up, with over 150 million channel views. Since 2012, she has taught women how to develop a more refined personal presence and lifestyle inside the Anna Bey Academy, where she hosts her various classes and courses. Her publication features include The Times UK, Newsweek, New York Post, Cosmopolitan, and many more.


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